I Want to Leave Him.2

Me and my boyfriend (Well call D) have been together for a little over a year with a month long break. For the first six months of our reltationship it was horrible. He did nothing but smoke pot constantly and i was recovering from a recent Divorce and trying to cope with being a single mom again. Ive always been very open about my attraction to women and ive considered myself polyamorous in the past. We found a girlfriend(Call her J), which was already a bad idea. Me and D got in a fight that resulted in me leaving and staying with said girlfriend. I got my own place and J was practically living with me but we were never official. I slept with D and we got in a fight over J. He ended up grabbing me by the throat and pushing me back against the bed. He later said he thought itd "be okay since i like being choked in bed". We tried to move past it. I let J go and got back with D. Me and D have now been back together for just over 6 months again. He worked on his temper. Weve established a healthier relationship. But nothing feels right to me. Im constantly angry, he doesnt cook or clean even after weve set specific rules. Im constantly exhausted and depressed. I find myself fantisizing about what i truly want yet i feel like i stay to simplify things.

I started therapy for my mental health.

Ive gotten to a point where im starting to think i might be a lesbian. And i might be trans.

Weve spoken and he blantantly said if i decided to transition he wouldnt be with me. He straight and i understand that. Even after we have sex i feel so.. Unsatified? Almost wrong? I end uo in this daze where i just want to cry. I just feel like everythings falling apart. I have a 4 year old i dont want to confuse.

Im thinking i just need to get rid of every relationship, get my own place and establish stability without anyone.

Idk what im looking for anyone to say.. I guess input? Thank you..

Edit: i should also mention were currently quarentined together being positive for covid.