Stay at home moms, or just parents!! ... how do you do it ? 😖

Question

I’m not a stay at home mom but I have my kids most of the time. They have different dads (not my husbands) and I’m currently pregnant with my husband’s child￼￼￼. My husband and I have not been doing good and we’re currently not living together but we’re “still married”. I’m so stressed out it’s insane my kids just started virtual learning, again, because the schools are currently shut down. I am seriously losing my mind. I’m screaming out my four and five-year-old because I’m so damn stressed out. Between doing school with them both having to cook clean the whole house everything that comes with it I have to do that all day long until it’s time for me to go to work until 10 PM. I seriously can’t take it anymore and I’m finding myself not even wanting to be a mom anymore. How do you find time to take care of yourself and not be so stressed out? I am losing my shit at this point and I don’t know what to do. ￼￼￼￼￼￼￼￼

Answer

I think you need to get yourself some help 
Find a sitter that can help you a few hours a day so you can get out and have alone time or adult time 
Screaming at them is only showing a loss of control as the adult and it will end up making them act out and make your life that much harder. 
See if their dads can help out. Or find a sitter. 
You’re essentially a single mom at the time and it’s so hard to think you have to do that without any help. You need YOU time. So that you have a fresh and patient attitude when dealing with your kids. Living your life constantly stressed out will hurt you and your relationship with them.

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Try prepping easy lunch and snacks for them throughout their day that they can just grab themselves. Or teach them to make their own lunch (sandwiches, Mac n cheese cup, microwave something). Kids that age are much more capable than you might think. I’d stop cooking for them all day and only cook a quick dinner in the evenings.

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I feel like this sometimes. I have a 9 and 6 year old from a prior engagement and a baby on the way from my husband. My older kiddos drive me nuts sometimes because they’re always fighting/disagreeing.. on top of making a mess etc. I have them clean up their messes but of course they’re not going to do it perfectly. 
I’m pretty clean and organized and like to cook regularly (breakfast, lunch, dinner).. so it’s always non stop. Cook, clean, cook, clean. Some days are better than others. Some days I feel like I’m going to snap. 
I have a choice, consequence, reward chart that has helped so much with keeping them responsible and accountable for their actions. 
I wish I could say it gets better but I feel there’s something at every age. Findings outlets (having their dad watch kids, grandparents), picking certain battles helps. I have to remind myself that I sometimes have high expectations and they are just kids. Also setting time aside (I know you’re tired) but like at least 10-20 minutes of hands on uninterrupted play time with them, helps. 
Good luck! Hang in there.

Stay at home moms, or just parents!! ... how do you do it ? 😖

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