Idk about him, maybe I’m overthinking it? Maybe I’m wrong?

I have dealt with a ridiculous amount of crap in my life. Abusive relationships, ptsd, trauma in my childhood on numerous occasions, cheated on, and the love of my life died. Couldn’t make friends because I was scared to talk to anyone. I also have a child who makes all the pain I’ve ever been through along the way worth it.

I started talking to this guy about 6 months ago, we talked on the phone a few times, and we would talk for about 5 hours, and he seems really sweet. The only thing that bugged me at first, is that I can’t really find much about him online. He uses the internet a lot though. Which I understand some people like their privacy.

When we first met, he gave me a ring (NOT

an engagement ring, but one with my late partner’s birthstone in honor of him), and then he gave me a paper showing me that he put me on his life insurance. My partner didn’t have any so I was left with nothing. He gave me some other gifts too, and my child a few gifts too. All of that kinda threw me off. Not sure how I felt about it.

But, Idk about him. I do like him and we have a lot in common. He’s cute.

Is him doing that ok or does this sound unsettling? Should I run?

Not only the gifts and insurance thing is bothering me, but he called and said his ex called from an unknown number. That he’s blocked her. But she keeps finding ways to contact him. (He didn’t sound bothered or creeped out by the fact that she supposedly calls him from unknown numbers.) That they’re relationship was “bad.” And that he’s not even sure he could call her an ex. But they supposedly lived together ten years ago. He said he had to have his teeth reconstructed because of her. I asked how but he never really gave me an answer. I think he redirected the conversation. He said he has never hit a woman or anything though. And there’s no records of domestic violence.

He could have just hung up once he realized it was her, if he really had her blocked. And he doesn’t have to talk to her. But his ex supposedly called, and he told her he was in a relationship with me, and then she said HER bf got her pregnant and she was getting an abortion. My “bf” said he blurted that he would adopt the baby. And then proceeded to tell me how weird it is with him telling me that.

Uh, yeah that’s weird. And I’m pretty sure that’s not something I want to be apart of. My son’s biological dad has never been involved, and the one he would have called daddy passed away. I just want to be with someone who is going to actually stay by my side. NOT pull me into more bullshit drama.

I’m all for saving a fetus, but idk why he even continued talking to her if the relationship was “that bad.” He says he likes his privacy but wanted to “rub in her face” about me. But Ive been in bad relationships and also really really bad ones, and I’ve had unknown calls that was an ex and I hung up right away as soon as they said hello because I’m trying to move forward and idc what they know about me or don’t know as I don’t want anything to do with them.

She apparently keeps calling, and idk. I’m uncomfortable, and don’t think I want to continue the relationship because I just feel incredibly awkward now.

Idk what to do.