Does this sound like normal 3 y/o behavior? Help.

I’m a first time mom. My daughter turns three in about 6 weeks. So I don’t know what’s considered normal behavior and what isn’t. I’m going to mention all of these concerns to her dr at her 3 year check up also but wanted some insight from moms. As an added note, she is smart, she goes to “preschool” and has no issues there that I’ve been made aware of.

-She will go into complete overload if she is trying to do something and doesn’t succeed. Example: trying to put a headband on her head, but it’s too big and won’t stay. She will go into complete overload.

-If she asks for water and we don’t get up to get it right that second, tantrum mode begins. Same with snacks. Or anything she asks for really. Even if I reassure her that I’ll get it in a minute.

-If she chooses to share, she’s good with it. If you ask her to share or make her share, tantrum mode.

-If I ask her to stop doing something, she will but she will like slap her hand on the floor or on table/furniture.

-Screams when we put her to bed, every single time.

-If I tell her no, it turns into a tantrum.

-If I go to the bathroom without inviting her to join me (even if she doesn’t have to go) she will stand outside the door and scream.

-if she asks my husband to do a certain task and I offer, she will tell me no and get upset (and vice versa).

These are just some examples. But the behaviors seem extreme to me and not normal. When I say tantrum, she’s screaming, throwing herself on the floor, occasionally hitting or telling me to shut up (which is new), truly going into complete and total overload. I’m to the point of not knowing what to do and when people are around or we visit people, it is embarrassing.