boyfriend doesn’t care about seeing me.

I’m getting to the end of my patience.

Me and my boyfriend have been together 3 1/2 years. in the beginning he used to want to see me all the time and ask to hangout all the time but the past year or two he hasnt even been interested. we both work full time and live with our parents so we only see each other on the weekend. for 3 1/2 years.. I feel like we aren’t growing as a couple. weve talked about living together and he’s put out the concern of what if we argue a lot when we live together and I just think well we’ll never know because we haven’t spent more than 3 days together. i’m just getting frustrated I told him we need to spend more time together, 2 days a week isnt enough to grow as a couple and sometimes we only see eachother 1 day a week or none at all. I bring it up at least once a month to him. a few months ago I asked him if we can start seeing eachother one day a week after work and he agreed, he’s never brought it up since then. I feel like he’s putting in no effort.

Also, on the buying a house topic. i’ve showed him houses before and he rejects me but whenever his mother wants to go look at a house he agrees, i think she wants him to buy it. one time they found a house and apartment connected and said we can all live together (no thanks) I spoke up and told her me and him agreed if we did anything like that it would be short term. she was shocked and said oh really I thought we were all always going to live next to eachother (uhhh....) I told her when the time comes me and him would want to live in our own home and start our own family. he does EVERYTHING for her which is very sweet. but his mother has a boyfriend who is very capable of helping her. I just feel like i’m always put last and the buying a house situation with your mom is something i’ve spoken up about, i’ve told him several times buying a house is between a bf/gf husband/wife not a mother and son.

i’m just not sure what to do anymore, I bring up stuff that bothers me at least once a month and nothings changing.