Trouble Orgasming?

Question

I used to be able to orgasm but my ex took advantage of me a lot, so I haven't been able to receive an orgasm from anyone since. I even struggle to finish off myself. Does anyone else struggle from the same problem.

Answer

I agree above that doing kegels may help you. It seems like since your ex took advantage of you that could possibly be the underlying cause. I would suggest self exploration and learn how to make yourself orgasm. Know what your body likes and what will get you to the point of O. Then you can be in better control of getting to that point or instructing your partner on what you need. Try lelo beads to build pelic floor muscles, they give a slight vibration as you move, I enjoy wearing them and I do lots of kegel exercises as well. Find your "g" spot! Some women can only orgasm from clitoral sensations, some vaginally or g-spot. Some women cannot experience orgasms! The fact that you have had orgasms in the past is good news in my opinion! If you can get a book with things to try it may give you new ideas or look on the Internet for ideas. I love clitoral stimulation gels such as orgasmix. It basically brings blood flow to your clit and enhances sensations. I wish you luck!

Answer

Posting on my other halfs phone (I'm a girl) - I don't know if this is fact but I think it's to do with the strength of your muscles, if I've not climaxed in a long time (through crap sex or a dry spell/low libido) I struggle too but orgasming regularly makes it easier, catch 22 but I'd recommend doing your pelvic floor exercises as a starting point, get everything nice and strong and try to relax as much as possible, don't fret too much about the big O just get practicing and using your muscles and it'll come, so to speak! Xx

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