So my bf has been staying at his grandma's when he doesn't stay with me, we've mentioned moving in together at some point but haven't actually sat down and talked about it. But we can't right now because I don't have enough room at my place (I have a roommate and he has a kid) and he's going through some legal stuff that's not his fault so we both just can't rn.

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However in the next 6 months or so depending on his legal stuff and my lease is up in June...SO we both should be in the right space to do so. But the other day he mentioned just going ahead and getting his own place as soon as the legal stuff is over. That way him and his kid can have their space.

I'm kind of upset because he doesn't really include me on these decisions. I've mentioned that and he corrects himself saying "our place". But it's not really "our place" if I'm moving in after him.

...about the same time he said this i told him I may sign another 6 months on my lease. That way I can give my roommate enough time to find something else and maybe by then his legal stuff will be over AND I'll be ready to move in.

But it seems like he's already made his mind up about getting a place as soon as he can. He also said that if I sign another lease we may not work out just because of the distance.

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I feel like that puts all the pressure on me for when we live together. I also think the situation is weird because I was in an abusive relationship before and living together gave my ex a lot of control......idk the whole situation has me feeling weird. I may just sign another 6 months anyway and see what happens.