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Chasity

Ladies I just need to vent my sadness. I am a working mom (more specifically a teacher). I knew when I got pregnant that it is very hard to balance taking care of a baby and working at the same time. From the beginning I've wanted to prioritize spending time with her (I have major mom guilt about working all day). I have a wonderful mother in law who takes care of my daughter from 7 am-3:30pm. As soon as I get off work I pick up my daughter and spend the rest of the day with her until she sleeps which is at 9 or 10pm. I still feel extremely guilty. And just recently I've noticed my daughter doesn't cry for me when I say bye bye anymore. She cries for my mother in law and won't leave her. I've recently had a week off and I spent all day with her but now in the past 2 days she cries hard for my mother in law when she sees her after I take her at 3:30. She used to cry like that for me 😔 And she started calling my mother in law mama which is what she calls me. Is it bad that I feel so extremely sad over this? My daughter is my life and I lived for those sweet cries while saying mama and now she's doing that for someone else instead of me. And she doesn't even noticed that I'm gone. I'm currently in a position where I cannot leave my job as I help provide for my daughter and on top I absolutely love my job. But I feel so overwhelmed with sadness today over this 😔 I feel like my little baby doesn't feel connected to me anymore 😭

Sorry if I sound selfish.

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Yea my mum watches my son and everyday when I leave him there he couldn’t care less lol...it stings but I tell myself that it’s because he knows he can always count on me to come back, and that we do get plenty of time together so it’s no big deal not to see me for some hours. It’s been like this since he was born (he’s 10 months). This week he got his first fever and he actually cried when I handed him off. Just once, but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel a like validated.

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I think this just a phase that babies go through when they’re close to their grandparents! I live with my inlaws and I spend all day everyday with my son as a stay at home mom and he still cries anytime they hand him back to me. They’ll give him a kiss before going to work and he will cry when they leave. Or they’ll hand him back to me so I can start his bedtime routine.. he cries lol. He gets so excited when they hold him and giggles so much with them, but doesn’t really do that with me. Don’t take it personally though! I know my boy is a mamas boy at the end of the day. I’m the one he wants if he’s scared, or hurt, or lonely.

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Chasity • Mar 11, 2021
It's really hard. It's the small things that hurt our feelings as moms or things make us sad when it comes to our kids. I'm sure your right it may just be a phase.

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Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. I think it's totally normal. I go back to work in a month and I'm DREADING this happening. Especially because I won't be home until 530 and she goes to bed at 630 so I literally never will see her. I'm already feeling super guilty and I wish I didn't have to work but financially it's just not feasible

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Chasity • Feb 25, 2021
It's very hard but manageable. Just be prepared to always feel guilty and try your best to make up for lost time 😔

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It's definitely normal. I'm in the same situation - teacher who's parents watch my LO during the day. We went through this phase a few weeks ago. My LO is super attached to my dad and would have major meltdowns when we left. He's stopped doing this lately. I think it's just a phase. I'm glad he's so close to his grandparents. Your LO loves you very much. They're just having a lot of fun and don't understand why they have to leave.

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Chasity • Feb 25, 2021
Thank you so much for the kind words 😊❤️ working mom life is something else. But mom guilt is horrible. I keep hearing it never goes away 😕