What was your rough patch in marriage

Currently going thru a rough patch in my marriage that’s having me question our longevity into the future. I’m open to couples counseling but he on the other hand not so much (based on a prior few sessions we did few years ago where he was basically dragged to go, but did go nonetheless). Have yet to ask him to do it again now.

We’ve been having so many arguments, many over stupid things. We have a child together.

The last fight we had (like many, due to some kind of misunderstanding on either side) was almost like the straw the broke the camels back. Since that day, he has not initiated any physical affection/contact. Basically like civil roommates with a child. It’s been a month...

Usually those “lows” last few days max. This is a new low. He has anger issues where he starts yelling if he’s not happy about something and then things escalate from there to full on argument and yelling back and forth.

Despite all this, I’m still willing to fight for us. We used to be so in love. He used to say he would fall apart if we ever got separated. We’ve been married 7 years.

Anytime he facetimes me while he’s at work, 90% of the time he just wants to see our toddler. Which is fine, but makes it seem even more like our child is the only reason we’re together.

Basically, I just want to know for those that did come out on the other side stronger together and got thru it, how did you do it and how low was your low beforehand? Is there hope...

I did ask him if he cared about me. He said yes of course. So at least there’s that🥺