Spending time

What is spending time with your spouse? My husband comes home around 4pm everyday and I work from home but I finish at 5 then I cook and do homework with my daughter and I finish all this around 9pm. I sleep early because I would be tired from work and I wake up at 4am because I start teaching that time. The problem is I complained to my husband that he doesn't spend time with me and his argument was he is home early everyday and he considers the conversations we have while I do homework with the kid or cooking spending time,am I wrong to think it's not spending time. Weekends he goes to his parents place and when I go with him he would be playing games with his brothers and I will be with his mom and mind you that is our every weekend routine unless I don't go there but he always goes. Am I wrong to be upset and feeling unloved? Are we spending time together ?