Did you plan/want baby #2?

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My baby is 1yr old and there are days getting pregnant again sounds awesome, and having that little snuggly baby again in my arms would be so sweet ❤️❤️❤️ 
BUT I still haven’t lost all my baby weight, my postpartum was horrible - I needed physical therapy for my pelvic floor, I had stitches all over and breastfeeding was horrendous. 
I also feel like I don’t “know” my baby enough to bring another one in, I feel like I need to get to know them more- see how they responds to more things, have them be able to use any form of communication to let me know if they’re  happy/sad/hungry/tired etc. i just don’t want to rush into having another and then neglect my first born and have them be confused you know? 
 it tooks us 2yrs, 4 rounds of clomid and 2 IUIs to have our baby so I know having the other one may not be easy.... but I also don’t want to try and then have a miracle where we get pregnant soon on our own and then I worry that I did this too fast to where my first born won’t be able to express themself then get mad and moody and regress..... idk I just love my baby so much It’s hard to think of having another one. Maybe it’s just me! 🤷‍♀️

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1 year old is pretty young. If you have time (considering your age, not sure what it is), I would wait a while. I have twins, which is a slightly different situation, but having 2 really little ones at the same time is hard. From what I’ve seen of friends with larger age gaps, the older ones can help with the baby and it seems like a great situation.

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My son was 8 months when I got pregnant with my daughter. My husband and I had not planned for her just yet but were overjoyed! They are 17 months apart and the best of friends. We also had our son at 20 and we were 21 when we conceived our daughter. I waited until 26 to get pregnant with our third baby and I’m now 28 and 9 weeks with our last baby. So our third and fourth were planned but all blessings! You do what is right for you momma!

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We planned our children to be 2 years apart. I love it. I don't think I would've been able to handle them closer together in age. My 2 1/2 yr old is independent enough so I am able to care for my 5 month old, but they are close enough in age where they will be able to best buds. I don't plan on anymore kids. Even though we were trying to conceive for baby #2, I was really heart broken when we got pregnant because that meant I had to take attention away from my 2 yr old. Once the baby came, I got over the sadness after seeing my boys together.  They absolutely love each other. Nobody makes my 5 month old laugh like my 2 yr old does. I do have times where I struggle because both boys are young and need my attention, but I just do my best and dad helps alot! I don't know that you can ever really be fully prepared, but I wouldn't change a thing. I can see how having a bigger age gap would be beneficial as well.

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Technically second pregnancy was a surprise but I miscarried so then we planned our second baby. Even with planning you’re still never completely prepared. I thought it was going to be a breeze because I pretty much knew what I was doing but haha the saying every baby is different is so true. Nothing I did with my first baby works for this baby. The pregnancy, labor, postpartum was all completely different.

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My daughter is 9 months, i want baby #2 i’m with you with the weight part. I love her so much! But i feel like, i should wait till shes bigger, but what if that takes too long to? I feel as if if i have another i won’t have enough time for her. Obviously, i would but, shes my first and my everything and it scares me. She’s going threw a sleep regression and teething so all the fussiness and etc makes me say maybe not now, Yet i’m having mixed feeling and do want another now, Agh.

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I totally get the baby weight part. But I just can't wait. My son is 9 months and we're ttc for our second.

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My oldest was 18m when his little sister was born, and their bond is the sweetest thing I've ever seen. It was actually a larger agree gap than we initially wanted. She'll be 1 in May and he's getting into the age where he builds things and she destroys them, but it's still so cute. He took a this out of her hand (it was his) but then gave her a kiss and said "it's ok" and found her a toy of her own.
Just found out I'm pregnant with #3, so when she's about 18m she'll be a big sister, too. I like them close together, though baby 3 was not planned. 
My dad and his sisters were all born in a 25m span(he's the middle child and his oldest sister is less than 25m older than the youngest) and my mom and her brother are 4 years apart. They all get along great at adults, but from what I've heard, my dad and his sisters were closer as kids and that's what I wanted

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We always wanted at least 4 and close together. It didn't work out as planned at all! We lost our 1st, 2nd and 5th pregnancies and we had a vanishing twin with our 2nd son. Our 1st is 19 months older than our 2nd. 2nd is 22 months older than our 3rd. 3rd is 2 yrs, 1 month older than our 4th. 
Having our 1st was scary. Everything was new and I definitely thought I was doing stuff wrong. Going from 1 to 2 seemed so impossible because I was still learning everything with #1. Over packing his diaper bag (I left with half the house! 😂) and it took forever to go anywhere. Once our 2nd came and I had to adjust I just did. The first 2/3 months were hard. The new baby was adjusting to life. But around 3 months he got out of the very needy stage and started settling into our current routine with our 1st. Going from 2 to 3 was so much easier for me because I knew how to do it and what to expect from an adjustment period. And adding #4 has been amazing. I know that's not the case for everyone but our boys adore their baby sister and are super involved and understanding with her. It's such a great bond and I can't imagine it any other way. I'm starting with a personal trainer on Monday. I'm getting my body back now that we're done having kids. Honestly I would do it exactly the same given another chance. We grouped our diapers and sleepless nights together. And our kids are getting to experience a lot of the same life changes together.

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We only ever planned on having one but when my son was 18 months we were loving being parents so much we decided to try for #2. Now we’ve had #2 I’m very happy we had our second but we are definitely done.

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My first two are 13 months apart and my middle and third will be 12 months apart. 
It’s hard, but it’ll be worth it. I’m 28.

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