Should I give him some space?

Me and my son had a fight today. I already talked about how I was on his phone and found out he liked a girl. He told me to stay out of his messages so when I picked him up, I decided to be funny and tell the girl he liked he thought she was cute. It was in front of other kids so I can see why some women on here didn't find it funny but I think the hate comments were a little much. He didn't say much about it yesterday but today when he got home(he wanted to take the bus home instead) he had a huge attitude walking through the door. When I asked what was wrong he said I ruin his life. I told him to stop being dramatic and he starts yelling saying he can't have a secret with me because I tell people or put it on Facebook and that I don't give him any privacy. I told him he can have privacy when he moves out and he slams his backpack on the floor and said "This is why I tell Gena everything and not you". Gena is his step mom. He really hurt mw when he said that and I told him that Gena can get him a phone then and to give me his. So he fucking takes his phone and tosses it in the sink!(I had been starting dishes and it was filled with water). He starts to walk out the house and when I ask where he's going he just yells dads. His dad doesn't live far from here so I just let him go. His dad called and said he was over there. Right now I'm giving him time to cool off. How much space should I give him before I have him come home and talk to me? I also want to ask Gena what my son has been telling her but idk if she will tell me.