He told me he loves me after 3 weeks

Ok so please no rude comments I'm feeling very vulnerable and I have mental health issues and take things very much to heart

I've started seeing this guy at the start of may we met on a dating app. Things had been going amazingly well which I really wasn't expecting it to at all. We connect on every level it's actually in sane I feel like I've found my soul mate. I have one daughter and he has 2 sons from previous relationship. We both want the same things, house marriage loads of babies! I know it's early days but I think when you know, you know.

Anyway he came over to mine Saturday and we had an amazing day, we drank, watched Netflix chatted and had amazing sex!! Things were great but he had told me he loves me. Now this obviously isn't bad but I'm aware it's only been 3 weeks going onto a month. I didn't say it back because I really want to make sure that I do and didn't want to just say it because he did, I really want to be as open and honest with this guy. I'm literally falling for him I can feel it but didn't want to say it because I'm literally right behind in regards to my feelings. We had a great day yesterday after all this and he left to go home. We talked about it and he wants to take back what he said and feels extremely vulnerable and is retreating because of it, I'd definitely do the same if was the other way around.

It makes me so sad that he is and I completely understand why he is it's a defense thing and he doesn't want to get hurt. He is extremely sensitive and he was trying his best to be honest with me.

I'm just having a hard time processing it as I have borderline personality disorder and mostly it stems from abandonment/trauma as a child, I'm afraid I'll push this guy away even further if I let those issues creep in. It's so hard not to because my issues convince me this is what is happening even though I have no evidence of it and he has has told me otherwise.

Has anyone else gone through something like this? Some advice would be really appreciated. Please be sensitive and empathetic because I don't think I could take any criticism right now. Thank you ❤️