How long did it take you to move on after being cheated on?

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I found out my husband of 10 years had been cheating for at least 2 years in Jan 2020. It’s June 2021 and I’m still not over the pain. Like I’m still hurt and confused how he could do that to our family, I’m still jealous that he lives his new life freely while I am taking care of our daughter 24/7 (he barely sees her). I love her more than anything and don’t even want time away from her, I just often think about how he’s in this new relationship, he gets to do whatever he wants, and I’m still where I was more than a year ago. I’m happy for the most part, I work, I don’t struggle financially, I have family and friends, and I have the most precious girl ever. It’s just those thoughts never leave completely. I’m considering therapy to fully move on, but I don’t know if this normal and will get better with time, or should I have moved on by now without those feelings?

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I believe that I would be devastated and need some therapy as well. No shame in it 💙

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Anyone would need therapy for that. People need therapy even when things aren’t going wrong, you can’t expect yourself to suddenly be okay. No shame in seeking help

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It makes me angry when I see or read people who cheat, move on like it's nothing & leave the other person broken. Do you lack feelings? I just don't understand how you do that someone. If you're not happy in a relationship/marriage, then express it. Figure out as a couple if it can be fixed or not. If it can't be fixed then break up. Why is that concept so difficult? 
Anyway, to answer your question, if it's bothering you everyday, then I don't feel that therapy would hurt. I would feel devastated. 10 years is a long time. I feel bad for your daughter too. I can't believe he doesn't bother much with her.
Also, remember that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. Who knows if he'll stick with her either after the honeymoon phase wears off. People tend to take what/who they have for granted.

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Reading these stories make me feel so bad for woman that have to go through this abs I’m sorry you have to because being cheated on hurts hard! No matter when did the cheating it always ends in unresolved anger, pain, emotions fly and you seek answers to why? I think it is going to take time to heal but channel that energy into doing things for you now! Go out with your friends and have fun times. Go get yourself pampered and workout or have a girls day with your daughter and find things to stop thinking about him. It’s his loss! And I agree with others who said that he might not last long with any new relationship and maybe karma will hit him hard! If you need counseling do it! If it’s been two years, I say start dating if and when you think your ready. You don’t need to commit to anyone just hangout and have a day date or friend or companion while you heal. I hope things workout better to you and I know it’s tough but you’ll get through this and your so much better and stronger from coming out of something like this! Your daughter loves you and that’s more than enough love for a lifetime.

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I think it's very normal that you still feel this way. 10 years is a long time, especially if you didn't ever see it coming. I know if this happened to me today after being married 9 years I know for a fact I would be so devastated and would take me so long to move on as well. I'm so very sorry that you are going through this, I think counseling will help, keeping busy with daughter, friends and family will also help. Praying for your healing heart🙏 this to shall pass.

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I can’t speak for cheating specifically, but I read in a sociologist’s research that it takes women about 6 years to fully move on after a divorce, while it only takes men 1-2. Not saying it will take you that long, but I think it’s normal for men to move on faster. Women are more emotional and tied to sentimental things and memories than men. Give yourself some grace, you were together a long time. Maybe start dating? It’s been over a year, it might make you feel better.

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I'm sorry you going through this,try theraphy.It will really help you.There is no shame about that.Sending you streght.You deserve to be happy with your baby girl 🙏🏼

How long did it take you to move on after being cheated on?

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