2nd time around, I still don’t like the newborn phase, is that bad?

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Mentioned to my MIL I wish I had a 5 month old button and that I don’t really get much personal satisfaction or binding out of the newborn phase. It’s just exhaustion, endless physical work, and the anxiety of figuring it all out. 
She suggested I speak to my doctor and said the sacrifice was totally worth it for her and she was glad to do it, she do anything for her kids. Made me feel like a bad mom. 😭

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Newborn phase sucks. I love my dude to bits but whoa was he boring. And needy. And looked like a mix of the godfather and winston churchill

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It’s everyone’s own preference. I don’t think you’re wrong for not liking that phase.
I personally loved the newborn phase. 
The terrible two’s however, I could do without lol

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I love babies but mostly when I can hand them back to their mother. I love my squishy little dude and I found I was happy with him as an infant but I SO much prefer the stages where we interact and he has independence. I was snuggling him this morning after he climbed into bed with me (he’s 20 months) and I just cried looking at him thinking I don’t know if I can do the newborn thing again but I would dearly love for him to have a sibling!! You are not the only one!!

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Just cause you’d prefer to skip it if you were able doesn’t mean it’s not “worth it” ... am I right? There are plenty of kid things I would 100% skip over if I could. Doesn’t mean I don’t adore my kids, just that there are hard things that come with them. I would never say that they aren’t worth it all (and more), but it’d still be nice to avoid those ugly parts. 🤷🏻‍♀️
Personally, I LOVE the tiny baby days. So many snuggles, so many kisses, so much tiny tininess that goes away all too quickly ... but I don’t love all the dirty house, shower-less days, sleep-deprived days and nights, juggling sibling care (which means way too much screen time and poor nutrition), desperately trying to keep myself fed and hydrated, and healing from birth. Worth it? Absolutely! Easy? Love every bit? No way. Everyone’s different and people can have phases that are harder and easier/more enjoyable for them. That’s perfectly fine

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Lol it doesn’t make you a bad mom. I loved the teeny tiny newborn phase (like the first two weeks) and then my daughter’s colic set in. I don’t think I slept more than two hours a night until she was six months old. So nah, I don’t enjoy or miss the newborn stage either. I loooove the toddler stage she’s in right now. It’s probably my favorite so far. But I know a lot of people don’t like the toddler stage. It’s normal and human!! You’re not a bad mom.

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Newborn phase is HARD. I don’t enjoy it that much. Recovering from birth, hormones all crazy, up every 2-3hrs to feed, painful breastfeeding, not certain yet what works for this baby, it is so hard. I always think of it now as “survival mode” for the first two months. I’ve had 2 and am pregnant with my 3rd. I am hoping that going into this third newborn phase will be easier because I will have this survival mode mindset (you know, who cares if the house isn’t clean and my older two have been in pjs all day? Let’s just work on getting on a good schedule and not worry about the little things). The baby snuggles and sweetness are redeeming factors but it doesn’t change the fact that it is just HARD. Absolutely does not make you a bad mother to feel this way. She probably just doesn’t remember the hard parts now, it was ages ago for her.

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You're not a bad mom! Just because you don't like this phase doesn't mean you don't think it's worth it or love being a mom or love your children. I hated the newborn phase also. Actually, I don't really even like being a parent. It's stressful and I'm still waiting for the fun to start. However, I love my daughter and would do anything for her and can't see my life without her. Motherhood and parenthood gives us conflicting feelings sometimes. Your mother in law raised her children already. And it's true we do forget the bad parts of parenting. For example, the pain of giving birth. You forget how painful it actually is. Your mother in law may very well not remember all the bad parts of having a newborn because it's been so long. Don't take her comments to heart. And unless you're neglecting your children, you're doing a fine job! I'm sorry she's making you feel this way

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I hated the newborn phase. I say all the time I wish I could give birth to a 5 month old because thats when it gets better. You're not alone and it's okay to not like it!

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I personally prefer the older years, when they're more independent and can tell me what is wrong, instead of screaming. It doesn't make me a bad mom, and neither are you.

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I adore newborns but it’s ok if you don’t. They’re demanding and exhausting. It’s totally fine to have periods you prefer more. I also love 18mos-2yrs but am not enjoying 4yrs

2nd time around, I still don’t like the newborn phase, is that bad?

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