Meh relationship

This is long bare with me.

I’m not sure if I just am asking too much because all of my female friends I talk to have similar issues.

But do any of you love your partner and all but truly feel like there is something missing in the relationship?

My husband is a good man. He checks 95% of the boxes. He is handsome has a good personality - not embarrassing to bring around family and friends. He has a good job, is never cheap and always takes care of me. Just bought me an LV backpack as my push present (I’m 33 weeks pregnant with our second). I haven’t pumped gas since I met him. I never had to take the car to the shop- he does all of That. He is handy- I never have to hire someone to fix the house. He installed a new pool liner this summer, painted the nursery, hangs all the tvs. He does most of the plumbing electric. Anything that needs to be done (youtube university lol). He is a great dad. We work opposite shifts and he has our son just as much as I do and he actually does stuff with him and doesn’t complain- takes him to dr dentist haircuts. You name it dad does it. He loves being a dad. He is very very involved. He helps with chores around the house - even though I have to ask smh. I think that’s just a man thing though. He will grocery shop and anything really that i ask he does. We rarely fight. He has never yelled at me or called me out of name. We been together since 2008. I literally have never heard him get hype. He literally checks off 95% of the boxes.

But the intimacy is just not there. Not just sex. We don’t talk. He doesn’t even open my texts most of the time- even if i see he is clearly on his phone. When I come home from work (days he is off) and he runs to Home Depot or goes in a different room to work on a project. And I know he does things like that because he loves our family and wants the house nice. But even when our son is in bed and both of us are in our room I’ll say “why don’t we cuddle.” Or “can you sit up so we can talk?” Tell him my back hurts and ask him to rub it and he just falls asleep. (He falls asleep before 10pm every night.) He gets over 8 hours of sleep. Don’t think he is lacking in sleep - he isn’t. Sex is like every two-three weeks if that. The only time we had a lot of sex is when we were trying to get pregnant. He just doesn’t want for it. Like there is no opportunity for me to turn him down because he just goes to bed… i also have never turned him down because it’s so infrequent i take what i can get. He won’t randomly jump in the shower with me. Or just cuddle. He doesn’t just hug or kiss me or even sit close to me on the couch. I just think some nights when I’m doing dishes how nice a hug would be from behind or something. But usually he will just go in another room to do something. We literally don’t ever do anything within arms reach of one another. If we do watch tv it will be ok different couches and we will both be on our phones.

When I bring up how lonely I feel, he will just deflect or ignore what i said. I know it’s probably our love language differences and all that but I really want to know if this is common? It seems like it is. But is it really impossible to find a partner that checks off every single box? Even if he made an effort to communicate I think I would be satisfied but there is no effort. It’s just nothing. I definitely don’t want to give up on what I have because everyone else’s dude kind of sucks WORSE imo. I just want to know if I’m asking for too much or what I can do to make this better