Advice on relationship

Hey everyone so I need some advice on relationships.

My bf gets upset with me and blames me for everything. He yells at me in front of our children and they automatically come to me when he does this. He says Its my fault they want me more than him I keep them away from him. I don’t do that I tell them to embrace him. He works I stay home with 5 kids he always throws in my face he works & slaves for us and all I do is sit around the house and do nothing at all. When I redecorate he just bypass it. I say thank you for everything but I don’t get a thank You. I asked to get my nails done he told me I don’t deserve that. He says his aunt says I’m not good enough for him, my family doesn’t do that not even if we go through things my family also tries to help n tell us it’ll be okay. When he has no money to get places his family doesn’t help they just watch but my family will help out by giving him money to go places he needs too. He goes to work comes home I lay out everything for him every day turn on shower for him as well and then he’ll say hi to us in the home and go straight outside with his friends and he’ll be so happy but when he’s back inside he’s angry n blames me or the kids because their crying. After having our 5th baby 5 months ago I lost my sex drive a bit. And he told me if I don’t change he’s leaving and taking my kids away from me, & that if I don’t please him he will leave me. I don’t find that right at all. I can’t even have my friend over with her daughter or my girl cousins. He sees me happy and rips that away from me and makes me sad. He calls me names n just justifies it in some way. I can’t even sit in my yard because he’ll say I’m dressing nice to Impress others when I’m looking nice for myself. I love him but I don’t know what to do anymore, I don’t want my babies taken from me (he says he can do that because he works and I don’t, his name is not on my lease only my kids and myself) I just needed to vent get some real advice from real woman hopefully uplift myself