How to deal with inlaws that seem to want to destroy you.

I'm not saying every part of my relationship with my husband's family is or has been the worst but the bullshit out weighs anything good about them.

I met my husband when I was 18, he had a 5 year old from a previous relationship so it was a pretty major decision I had to make regarding having a relationship with him. 18 seemed to young to get wrapped up in all that, especially with a kid involved so I took it slow. Best decision I have ever made I honestly can't imagine my life without my stepson, 6 years I've been in his life and it's changed my world for the better. Were now married, having a daughter whose 3 and I can honestly say my children are. my world.

My in laws are a piece of work (MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL). I get every family has issues but this shits been going on for far to long and I'm afraid that me keeping my mouth shut and being to nice has just made me an easier target for these people. Up until I became pregnant, they were bearable. It's almost like they couldn't accept the fact my husband was separated with a child and now married to another women and having another child. It started with my baby shower, they refused to participate in it whatsoever... Getting them to give information on extended family to send invites out was a no go, any time I tried to include them they ignored me, then my mil demanded she bring a few food items to set out. I declined and explained that the shower had 30 plus people attending and that it was understandable that she didn't make food/snack dishes for that amount but she insisted so I agreed and then my husband's phone was blowing up from his sister bitching. She then took whatever she shared from the gifts we got and cleared us out.

She made fun of my weight gain at the end of my pregnancy. I had preeclampsia so I was swollen jokes on her because I bounced right back . She judged everything I got or planned on doing with my daughter (sleep method, bottles ect) she ruined my daughters first birthday party, she's ruined every birthday I've had. Every occasion is about her and her drama. She told me I was a bad mom for transitioning my daughter to her crib at 8 weeks and told me my daughter would die.

I've done everything in my capability to have a good relationship with her. I did her stag and doe, I worked my ass off for her wedding, every birthday my nephew had I was there to setup and clean her house, I did her baby shower. I've just always been there and put out the best I could and she's never appreciated me. It's constant disrespect but I tell myself I can't stoop to her level and I have to be the bigger person. She stirs up problems in my relationship with my husband, she literally caused me to walk out one day and just never go back. I left for 9 months and my husband and I got back together and he was supposed to stand up for me and not let his family get in his head. They all alter his attitude and whenever they're involved in our lives he becomes and miserable ass. He did stand by me for a few months and then shit went back to the way it was and I've had enough. I deleted his family on social media and decided to step back for my own sanity and everything blew up... It's chaos and they're taking it out on my husband. I don't care if he has a relationship with them and in no way shape or form a. I expecting him to cut them off. I just simply can't do it anymore so myself-i needed to step away from it and he's.resentful towards me and acts like it's all my fault. I just can't handle this shit anymore, they turned my life upside down and often times, I wish I never met him Soley because I can't do this. It's had me bent out of shape for years .