DBD refuses court but it’s my fault .

Am I wrong for wanting my narcissistic DBD to go through the courts to prove he’ll stay consistent in our kids lives? We have 2 kids and he’s an absent father, pops up once every month or 2, has seen our kids a handful of times this year for a few hours max, doesn’t contact them to check up just randomly stops in when it suits him. He doesn’t pay child support (outstanding payments he has no intentions of paying). He isn’t involved in their lives nor does he provide or help at all. He always has excuses, once he gets money he will see the kids, then he’ll get a job and it’s once I get a house I’ll see them, I need to get my shit together etc etc. I’ve told him I’d be at ease if he goes for visitation that way it’s consistent, it isn’t him making plans and breaking promises etc. He says Im doing this just to keep them from him because he has no intentions of going to court nor want visitation because he loves having it on his own terms, not realising going to court saves any kind of drama and means he won’t miss out on seeing kids. He doesn’t want to take responsibility for his kids but it’s still my fault.