Would you forgive him and try marriage counseling?

My husband and I have been through a lot together. We're best friends and have a family. We both have been very stressed lately - less sex, I'm more bitter and snap at him almost daily about anything and everything, and he seems unhappy a lot because of me being so angry all the time. This all started mid 2020, we started getting into toxic arguments. Most of the time he would call a timeout (our safe word when too angry to communicate) and would go off and be by himself for awhile, and come to me later and communicate in a healthy manner.

Other times, when he called a timeout I will go after him to pursue finishing the argument. A lot of times that I've done this he has verbally lashed out - called me names a 3-4 times the past year (b*tch, moron) when he never has before, and also just saying horrible things to me in general - like wanting a divorce, I'm a horrible person, he feels smothered by me being so angry at him all the time and he lashes out. I csnt help but feel if I left him alone in these times like he wanted, none of those things would've been said.

I told him he is being verbally abusive, he told me I have been emotionally abusive/manipulative for years which has made him angry with me and lash out verbally at me and he is tired of walking on eggshells because I am so angry all the time.

He came to me today and said he is sorry and feels disappointed with himself for resorting to name calling the last year in our marriage instead of communicating with me like we talked about. We've been together 7 years so the last year of name calling and toxic fights has been a new, horrible chapter.

For our kids to grow up in a healthy household, we talked about divorce despite us loving each other greatly. We then both confessed to our toxic, abusive traits and agreed to do marriage counseling or a marriage communication course and see if things change and go from there.

We have so many years of love before this past year... and our beautiful kids and everything we've built. Would you work on things or divorce?