I left my Husband…

About 6 months ago, My husband started a fight with me over him not liking my mother, which escalated into him taking my phone from me, blocking me in the bedroom for over an hour, and physically assaulting me, by pushing me and holding his hand over my mouth. I left him for 2 weeks.

As I had just found out I was pregnant prior to this altercation, and we had his 2 kids and our toddler living with us. I returned after 2 weeks under the guise we continue therapy that we started prior to be moving back home.

He was pretty unpleasant about the whole therapy thing from the beginning, which I should have take as a BIG RED Flag! I guess I was desperate for it to work out for all the kids! At this point my husband had been verbally and emotionally abusing me for years, not that I wanted to admit it. He also had done “physically”violence intermittently… as it was not the punch me in the face kind of abuse it always seemed to get excused as escalated fighting and victim blaming he was really good at making me feel like all our fights were my fault and I had an anger problem. He eventually weaseled his way out of therapy after 3-4 sessions and never returned… with multiple excuses. 🙄 My favorite was I don’t have a problem.

Moving to present day, This last Saturday I posted about an argument my husband and I had. It started with him telling me that he needed complete control over my life, our sons life, etc. That as I was mentally incompetent and had been for a while, a lot because I’m pregnant I was incapable of thinking clearly. As I tried to discuss with him, he couldn’t handle me logically talking to him He became agitated and Later that Night he proceeded to call me the “N” word… SERIOUSLY! 😳 (Obviously I am not black, But my dad is 100% middle eastern and he is taking this as him being called a Sand “N” and my husband was using it derogatory to put me down and my ethnicity). We immediately ceased contact after this, I went to bed upstairs and he slept downstairs in the spare room, as he was up late drinking and had been drinking for a while that night. Mind you picked up his stepson from work after he had been drinking for hours…

Next morning I woke, Took my toddler to breakfast to meet a friend, went to Walmart… Decided there was absolutely NO WAY I could return home and drove to my parents house.

Since then, He has texted me relentlessly, First he was upset, then he threatened that I kidnapped his son, then he pleaded with me, then he tried pushing blame or victim blaming…. Then he tried to get my sympathy ( 😂 😑) He is sick and can’t eat, etc. Then he made me feel guilty about his son and our kids, NOW He will go to therapy.

He wants me to come home to work on it. I continue to remind him that we were for “working on it” for the last 6 months. We continued to fight almost everyday. He also spent over $7,000 on a video game in this time. I posted about that as well….

I have so far stayed firm that I refuse to be under the same roof as him. I have asked him to leave the house… considering I’m DUE IN 3 WEEKS! All the baby stuff is at the home and my parents do not have room for me and 2 kids.

I know I’m right for not returning. I know he will not change. I do hate this for all the kids. I just can’t live like this anymore. He has threatened to leave the country… which for his 17 yr old I think is insanely selfish.