Just need to vent…

Please save telling me how awful my dad is, I know for myself🤦🏼‍♀️

So this time last week my grandad had a stroke at work. It’s a family business so my grandad, dad and uncle own it. Myself and my sister also work here in the office. First off I thought the stroke just happened but it wasn’t until later on that I found out he had the stroke due to my grandad and dad getting into a fight which ended up in a fist fight. My dad pushed my grandad that hard that he fell and hit his head. Minutes after he had a stroke. My uncle and sister got my grandad to hospital just in time (within the golden hour). We found out later on that due to him hitting his head he got a clot on the brain. However after being given medication to help disburse it it did go. As we speak my grandad is still in hospital a week later, unable to speak, has issues with his memory and has only just been able to start swallowing some foods and water yesterday, before that he was being tube fed. I am absolutely disgusted in my dad. I haven’t spoken to him for this whole week but what hurts is that my mum is being so naive to it all even though she knows what my dad is like. He used to hit us kids when we were younger to. She’s trying to blame the stroke etc on something else and saying ‘well grandad hit your dad first’. I don’t care who hit first, I care that my poor grandad is in hospital unable to speak and care for himself right now. And that my poor Nan is left all by herself.

Not once has my mum or dad messaged me or any of my siblings to ask how we’re doing when we’ve all been absolutely devastated. He’s the only grandad we have and we love him to pieces. We would not be where we are today and have the life we have if it wasn’t for him! My parents don’t respect him or my Nan one bit. This fight was apparently all over money and my dad using money from the company to pay for his own personal things when the business isn’t doing that great right now.

I’m also 21 weeks pregnant with my parents first grandchild and my grandparents first great grandchild. A rainbow baby in fact after 5 early losses so I’m trying to keep it together the best I can and I want nothing more than for my grandad to meet her.

It’s my mums birthday today. I can’t face going round so I sent her flowers from me and my partner and sent her a message wishing her a happy birthday and that she should get something in the post. I asked if she was free to call later unless she’s going on. The response I got ‘thank you’. That’s all. She even responded to my sister going ‘thanks for the flowers, bit of colour on a dull day’. Does she not think it’s a dull day for us too? In fact a very dull week?

I’m so angry and upset.