This is going to be our only child together, apparently that's wrong?

Gotta love people and especially family. *heavy sarcasm*

I'm 33 weeks now and it's Christmas time and all my aunts and cousins are super excited about my husband and I expecting our son who will be born sometime between now and middle February. We've both agreed that he is our first and only child together for so many reasons and non of those reasons are because I wouldn't want to be pregnant again. Don't get wrong, if I'm being honest I really don't enjoy being pregnant bit that's more because I'm used to being extremely active and independent and I have had to slow down and ask for help which is something I'm not good at. My pregnancy itself has not been too bad though. I get the oddest reactions when I say we are one and done. Why is that so wrong? Are you going to pay my bills? Are you going to watch my kids so both husband and I can work? And to be honest the biggest reason is because my husband is turning 40 this year and he does not want to go through the infant stage again further in his 40s and then be an "older" dad especially when his first is 14 this year and our son will be born likely in February. I'm 30 and yes my age is not an issue but the further I to my 30s I get the more I want to be able to go back to spending time working on my career goals and not on raising yet another infant. I absolutely love that I get to be a mom and experience that and will have an awesome son I'm sure but we are happy with the family we will have.

I get so sick of family acting like choosing to stop at one is wrong or selfish. For me it would be selfish to have another knowing it would put us in a very tough place financially and knowing that we both want to raise him and be done with having babies.

I get comments like:

Why would you choose to make your son an only child?

pregnancy and labor aren't that bad you'll forget all about it and want another one in a year or two.

Your career can wait.

Your husband isn't that old so what you're young and make a great mom.

Seriously? He won't be an only child he has a sister. It's not about going through pregnancy and labor it's about adding another life to the world and making sure we can care for them.

I shouldn't have to give up what is important to me because I also happen to be a mom oh and we can't afford for me to just stay at home with the kids.

Also I respect that my husband wants to be done with having babies. I was happy whether we had a child together or not and as far as I'm concerned being able to see what a mini us would like and get to be his mom is just icing on the cake for me. I'm totally fine with just one.

Sorry about the rant I just hate how everyone feels the need to shame women and parents for every single thing it seems. It's draining.