My mom is constantly second-guessing my parenting decisions

I’m at my wits end 😩

No matter what we’re talking about, if my daughter is involved, my mom tells me I’m wrong. For instance, at first, the hospital told us not to give her more than 1oz at the time, and my mom said we were starving her. Then like 3 days later, the pediatrician said to feed her as much as she’ll take, and my mom said we were gonna make her sick. (SO WHICH IS IT MOM?! 🙄)

Well last night, my mom was over and my daughter Maddie was sleeping in her bassinet while we were visiting. Maddie started to cry, so my mom went to get her, and Maddie had spun herself around again where she was completely sideways. My mom threw a fit and said that it’s time to move her to a crib since the bassinet is too small; but Maddie is only 9 weeks old at 10.5 lbs, and I think it’s way too soon. (Apparently she moved my sister and I to our cribs at 2 months, because she said we were both active sleepers too. )

Well we got into a lively discussion, and it honestly left me feeling really hurt. Everything I’m reading, between the internet and the info we got from my doctor, is saying to keep her in the bassinet until she can roll/sit up or until she’s 15-20 lbs; but when I told her that, she sneered and said “so you’re just gonna raise your child by the book? Kids aren’t by the book.”

I just feel like she doesn’t respect that I’m the mother and that these are my decisions. My beautiful little girl is clearing all her developmental milestones, some of which super early, and she’s happy and healthy. I just don’t need the negativity. Oddly enough, my MIL is incredibly supportive, while my actual mom is the one making me feel like a failure.

Any tips? I just started working from home again, while also taking care of my little girl and trying to keep my house somewhat clean, and I just don’t have any extra energy to defend myself to her.

- Because just thinking about this stressed me out, here’s a pic of my adorable little girl♥️