I’ve stopped thinking about my boyfriend as much and don’t get butterflies when I think of him or when he texts me. Does this mean I don’t love him?

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I’m in the happiest relationship I’ve ever been in. But over the last month I feel I’ve been a bit depressed. I’ve stopped thinking about him as much and don’t get butterflies whenever he messages me. I don’t get butterflies seeing photos of him either .
I dunno if being tired or unwell can do this or whether it’s just relationship ocd
Even music doesn’t sound as good to me anymore either

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After a while, butterflies can wear off. But I’ve found after dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years that love changes. And it isn’t for worse. It just means your relationship is getting deeper. My boyfriend and I may not have butterflies anymore, but we have such a trusting and comfortable connection. We are able to get sick or be naked around each other with no embarrassment. We are able to open up about deep desires or feelings we wouldn’t normally acknowledge. We have inside jokes and signals that mean something only to us. We are just as content with a night out as we are a night in snuggling. It depends on what we feel like. He is my best friend and I wouldn’t trade it for feeling butterflies with someone else.

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After awhile in the relationship you'll lose the butterfly feeling. At least it won't happen as often. Mostly just being more comfortable around each other and such. I'm sure the depression is making a difference too

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The butterfly feeling goes away the longer you are in a relationship. It doesn’t mean you don’t love him, you’re becoming comfortable with him, which is good. I have been in a relationship for 7 years and I occasionally get butterflies but nothing near when we first started dating. What youre  experiencing is completely normal, I promise.

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It could be the depression especially if music doesn’t sound good to you anymore. 
Also after a while the butterflies go away and the relationship turns more into a family/ best friend type of love that means more.

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It is not about your feelings towards him or whether you feel butterflies or not. You are going through some sort of depression, you should seek help if it is getting in the way of your daily life (eg getting out of bed , social isolation, taking care of yourself )

I’ve stopped thinking about my boyfriend as much and don’t get butterflies when I think of him or when he texts me. Does this mean I don’t love him?

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