Boyfriend suffocating me... need space......

My boyfriend quit his job 5 months ago. I got a new apartment and he moved in with me. He isn't working, looking for a job. He just sits here and plays video games. He went to see his family December 18th and came back the very next day... he's been sitting here ever since. Just playing video games and watching twitch. I have to pay for everything. All rent, electricity, wifi, my car payments, insurance, gas money and groceries. And I just feel suffocated. I haven't had any time to myself in over a month. Im 30 years old and just feel different now. I need to have some time to myself. It's annoying to have another person to feed every day. I'm annoyed. His birthday is on the 8th I'm trying to get him to go back home and spend some time with his family. Being in a relationship doesn't mean spend all of your time together. With him never leaving this apartment. On my days off I would like have some space and time tomyself. Especially if he cant do anything for me...

I've been with him for 9 years. And just don't feel the same. This is not healthy it's actually a turn off to be with someone that has no money and comfortable having no money.. thinking he has an easy life while I to work to have what I have.. messed up as that may sound. It's really bothering me I need him to leave.

How can I get him to understand I need some time alone without it sounded harsh? He is about to be 34 in less then a week and I feel like I have to be his mother. Biggest turn off!

Advice Please ?