Stepson & Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day, UK mums! 🥳

My stepson (11) moved in with us last year so this is the first time I’ve ever spent Mother’s Day with him in the 8 years I’ve known him. Never had a card or phone call etc.

I’ve heard conversations with his dad over the years asking him to sign his name on a card or whatever and he’s just like “nah it’s ok, she’s not my mum, so..” which I do get- his mother hates me and has done everything she can to make he and I don’t have a close bond, which is real sad, but for years it’s seemed like it’s a lost cause. My partner and I do have a son together too, so he always includes both their names on a card etc, and that’s always been enough. Our relationship has been getting better since he moved in with us full time, but there’s still some resistance from him which I know frustrates him- he’s told his dad that he can see how much I do for him and that obviously he loves me, but he doesn’t understand why he can’t just be nicer to me sometimes. He’s reassured that there’s no pressure, and that I don’t have any expectations of him, and that what we do have is enough.

Then this morning came, and I had been a little worried that my stepson might feel a bit awkward or something if he didn’t want to be included in giving my card etc, but figured whatever he feels most comfortable with doing, that’s what’s important, and I’ll make sure to spend some casual time with him so he knows there’s no weirdness or whatever.

My husband took the kids out and let me sleep in, and when they got home, they all went into the dining room whispering and doing something. They called me in, and these sweethearts had gotten me flowers, home made cards, and some little gifts like my favourite sweets. My stepson gave me a card and gift that he’d spent hours making last night, and inside the card he’d written “thanks for everything you do, and for being such a great mum figure” 😭😭😭

Definitely had to wipe a sly tear away after that 🖤