Husband didn’t come home last night UPDATE #2

Ladies…. Please let me know if I’m being unreasonable or if my anger is valid.

My husband was supposed to bring his friends (2 male 1 female) to the airport last night at 8pm so they can head home, (they were visiting us). We are only 10 minutes from the airport, so it should’ve taken my husband realistically about 30 minutes in total to go there, drop them off, and head back home. We made plans last week to have a date night monday (last night) The plan was for him to drop his friends off while I finished getting ready and then we meet at a restaurant.

At 8:30pm he called and told me that their flight was delayed due to weather…..which I figured was going to happen because a storm rolled in out of no where. He said he was going to wait a bit with them, to see if they wanted to just spend another night or wait and see when their flight was rescheduled. I said okay and just sat and waited.

Around 9:30pm I texted him and said “at this point just have them stay another night” he didn’t answer…

At 10:00pm I said “?????” And nothing….

I ended up falling asleep on the couch and woke up at 11:45pm and still NO response. But the messages are going through and saying delivered so I know his phone is on.

At this point I’m starting to worry for his safety. I called him and no answer. I didn’t have the friends numbers because it was my first time meeting them….they are my husbands Friends. Anyway, I look up the flight statues to see wtf is going on, and the last flight back to the friends hometown departed at 11:50pm….no I’m starting to get sketched out. It’s now MIDNIGHT and I haven’t heard anything from my husband.

The plane boards 45 minutes before takeoff, so if they took off at 11:50 PM, at the very very very latest the friends would’ve had to been dropped off at 11 PM. At this point nothing was adding up in my head at all. I text him ??? and the message delivers in blue, but no answer.

It’s 12:30am now, I’m panicked and thinking about driving to the airport. I decided not too because realistically it’s so massive I would’ve waste hours looking around. I sit home waiting and waiting. I texted him at 1am again…..nothing. I fell asleep on the couch again and woke up at 7am. HE STILL WASNT HOME AND HASNT TEXTED BACK.

I’m sick to my stomach now, I text him AGAIN saying “what the hell happened” and he answers immediately. He said “Omg I’m on my way home now, my phone was dead”

I suddenly stopped worrying about his safety and become enraged….I’m talking FUMING out the ears. I asked him what happened and why he is getting home 11 hours later. He gives me a half ass response “flight was delayed all that time, then I fell asleep in the chair while my phone was dead”

i just went off. Saying 1st, why the hell didn’t you get a charger then, 2nd, that’s a lie because my IMessages were being delivered, not sent as a green Text message. 3rd why did you feel obligated to wait in an airport lobby with 3 grown adults for 10 hours ….when we live 10 minutes away . Too add to that, why didn’t you call me and tell me this, there was ZERO communication. Not only was it a date night and you stood me up, on a regular night this type of disappearance is not OK.

Now it’s 3pm and He’s going on about his day like nothing even happened. While I’m sitting here pissed. Let’s say he’s telling the truth, even if everything he said was true, then I’m PISSED that he stood me up like a god damn high schooler with absolutely no communication. If his phone was dead than he should’ve gotten in the car and came and got me. There’s literally no fucking excuse to be gone for 11 hours when I’m 10 MINUTES AWAY. I was genuinely worried.

On the other hand…..I don’t believe that shit for a second. 😑 he’s a smart man, in what reality would he think it’s OK to be gone for 11 hours if he was genuinely just bringing his friends to the airport?

Why didn’t he get one of their phones and call me? If he didn’t have my number memorized then why didn’t he go on one of their social media‘s and search me to message me? Why didn’t he drive back to let me know he’d be staying with them and his phones dead? None of these things are too much to ask for….he literally is acting like nothing happened and that I shouldn’t be mad. I feel like his nonchalantness about his actions is really just him gaslighting me into thinking it was no big deal.

Literally in what world would he not call his wife? Not to mention the last flight was at 11pm…..so wtf was he actually doing all night. I feel like something is going on but he’s acting so NORMAL it’s making me second guess myself.

UPDATE. Yes you guys are probably all right about this one. He was/ is being sketchy. I told him he has the option to sit down face to face and be honest and we can work through it, OR he can keep his mouth shut and I move out until he matures enough to own up to his actions.

Which at that point, knowing myself, there’s no going back. He insists nothing happened and does understand where I get these “crazy ideas from” and that my mind “makes up shit” 🚩

UPDATE 2: it’s now been a little over a week, he never budged with his story and actually started getting mad that I wouldn’t “let it go” sigh ☹️☹️ I already have major trust issues and this is probably something I will not be able to move on from