Boyfriend of 5 years having doubts

Hi everyone,

Just in a really low place in my relationship right now.

I’ve been dating this guy for nearly 5 years(a few days short of 5) and we have moments where there’s an issue or a low moment in our relationship and he just takes days or weeks to deal with his thoughts. He speaks to me but things are clearly weird during this time. He also says things like he’s not sure about our relationship or me and expresses that he’s having doubts. He’s done this almost every year since we started dating and it’s getting tiring.

I absolutely love him! I love him to bits and want to build my life with him but I can’t do this if we keep having these setback moments. I know we can’t go forward that way! It’s starting to really affect me.

Most recently, he told me we fought a lot and that it frustrates him - understood. I asked if we could work on things or if he wanted to end the relationship. It’s been 3 weeks now and still no response to the issue! He just want us to talk like everything’s normal and it’s not.

I just don’t feel like I’m getting through to him and I don’t have anyone to talk to. So I just thought to come on here 😔.