Husband doesn’t help me

I am a sahm and my husband works 50-70 hours a week. He believes it’s my “duty” to clean, cook, take care of the kids since he works and I stay home. He doesn’t help me with anything when it comes to the house. He always tells me “the restroom needs to be cleaned” “the stove it dirty” etc. And it pisses me off I tell him if you see something dirty why can’t you clean it when you’re off or something? And he talks mess. Also with the kids “his diaper is dirty” “his clothes are dirty he needs to be changed” etc. I tell him the same, why can’t you help me?

His response is why can’t you help me pay bills. Saying I can’t handle being here. He really expects me to cook, clean and take care of the kids all day everyday with no help. It makes me so upset, can’t even talk to him without starting an argument. Anyone else going through or went through something similar? I am not sure what to do.