Would you trust your kid with them?

My fiancé has trust issues with his father and step mom. He won’t even tell them big news. Every-time they talk it’s a fight over something stupid including things that happened ten years ago when he was a teen that were mistakes. Step mom is a recovering alcoholic. Dads just mean to the point that it makes my fiancé cry sometimes. They treat his identical twin brother like he can do no wrong. He still lives at home with them, drives a nice car that they set up for him. They’re giving him the house when they die.

He constantly asks when they can see my kid. I tell him not without one of us around and I don’t even like that. It’s not even that I’m afraid of them treating a 1 yr old like a screw up, he’s 1. I don’t even want him to see his own father treated like that. We broke up for about six months, and even then I said the same thing over and over when he was doing visits with his son (I took custody because he had mental health issues going on, that’s why we broke up and got back together once he was stable, medicated and seeing a therapist).

He’d be better off without them in his life too. Probably why he went until 26 without diagnosing and treating his mental health problems.

He knows it’s only them. His mom and step dad and that side of the family sees my kid when they ask.

Btw, even though this isn’t my reasoning. When they found out we were having a kid the first thing out of the fathers mouth was that it couldn’t be his because he had a surgery that made him infertile. I never cheated, our sons definitely his, he looks just like both of us. His mom confirmed the dr never said the surgery would make him infertile.