MIL Dillemma

I post here a lot about my MIL being so dominant and think she knows better. The fact that she did made my PP worse for 6weeks. Anyhow..

I told to my husband I don’t want any visitors as I am still dealing with PP at 6months. Baby is teething and I am guilt for not playing with him so much because his father works a lot. And when his father playtime with my son, he is always on the phone so he’s not really hundred percent attention. So I told my husband yesterday I feel bad for not playing with my son all the time. And then a month ago his mom messaged him saying that she feels bad for me not allow her to come see his grandson. So I decided and talk to my husband to tell your mother that she can come to see her grandson. Then I saw the conversation yesterday. My husband told his mother that I am asking her to come out and visit because I feel stress that I cannot play all the time with my son. I’m not sure if this is a retarded conversation. But I felt like I beg her again to come back already beg her to come and play with my son. She responded to my husband saying that she is glad that I ask for her to come in. Which I really did not ask per se.

EDIT:

Not sure who is wrong. Husband or MIL or I am just so hypersensitive.

A month ago, MIL texted my husband saying that she felt sad for me not allowing her to see my son. (Which is true. For so many reasons.) the fact that I am still dealing my PPD and her negativity is not welcome to my home.

Yesterday, I told to my husband I felt bad for not playing with my son all the time. Because I am always tired and still try to play with him. But I meant I wish I don’t have house chores (cooking, cleaning, laundry, bottles) and mental sanity to take care of and play with my son on top of my exhaustion.

So I decided to tell him to let her Mother come visit. (So my son can get to play with her and for her to see her grandson while I gather my energy for few hours a day until she leaves) and be feel renewed. That is if she is not negative this coming visit.

Yesterday, my husband message MIL.

Husband: My wife asked you to come visit.

MIL: Can she finally handle a week visitor? Can you call me?

Husband: I think she is stressed for not playing with your Grandson all the time.

MIL: I’m glad she finally asked me to come out. Why can’t she play with my Grandson all the time?

The conversation ends there… not sure if husband called her.

I was just thinking that she thought I was asking her a favor to come which is never my intention if not for her grandson.