Narcissism or what? Or is it me?

My husband lacks serious empathy for me… and I feel stuck.

Our marriage is terrible rocky. I love him to death but I can’t put my finger on what is wrong with him.

This morning we went to the gym together like we always do and I told him I had to stop early because I unexpectedly got my period early and didn’t have a tampon. I told him I’d wait downstairs for him by the door while he finished. Well he went off on me grumpy, saying he can’t even do anything for himself and everyone else has to deal with all my issues.

Then we got him and continued to bicker. He told me I’m not a true grownup and everyone has to deal with my issues. I got my first cold sore yesterday and I thought it might be a pimple so yesterday I had kissed him and today it’s clearly a cold sore and he’s now pissed saying everyone else has to pay for my lack of care.

Finally he stood up and looked at me and said he’s already spoken to a divorce attorney and if I don’t get my shit together he knows she’ll be able to help him.

I feel at a loss. He says I should get a therapist and it’s not everyone else’s problem blah blah. I honestly for so long believed him that maybe I am childish and I should get my shit together. But when I take a step back at it… he seriously is a basket case of emotion, too.