I’m not cut out for this parenting stuff

I have honestly always tried my best and by no means am I a perfect parent.

I was I single parent for 13years and my daughter and I were very close. I got many things wrong along the way but my heart was always in the right place and my intentions were always protect and provide. We had an honest open relationship. I had her very young and suffered with anxiety disorder but it was managed well with meds.

Roll on teenage years… roll on boys…. Roll on mental health issues… roll on lack of trust….. roll on secrecy and now a complete breakdown in our relationship.

She has shut down, tells me nothing and blames me for everything wrong in her life!

She says I’m insensitive, judgemental and rude! I say I don’t want her making the same mistakes I made, I say I’m trying to advice her to achieve her full potential, I say I’m warning her about losers in her life.

Apparently I’m a crap parent. She has told me this not just in anger but in serious conversations. I do understand I’m not the most tactful, sympathetic person and can come across as quite standoffish but I’ve always been that and I do try to reel it in and keep some opinions to myself but find that incredibly hard when I see her making stupid decisions. I just want the best for her.

I have a son now who is two and I feel that I am just no good for him now. I don’t want to mess up his life like I’ve apparently done to my daughters. I am at a loss because I honestly believed my parenting was to a good standard but now I’m questioning it all.

Sorry just a rant from a stressed, clueless parent.

Edit: thanks for the comments. She 17 now. Also from the age of newborn to roughly 12 I was very warm, loving and affectionate. She was literally my shadow and never left my side we even co-slept until she was 10. She then backed away from me. So I thought giving her space as she wanted would help us but it’s done the opposite and now she don’t want me near her etc. it’s like she forgotten how close and good together we were and to her it never happened 😔 apparently I’ve never hugged her!!! It’s like we’ve lived two different worlds…. My view and hers are so different