who do you confide in?

soo I've been feeling pretty miserable in my relationship and I confided in a girlfriend.. this is the wife of my husband's best(?) friend. both men have been ditching us together in sleepovers while they're having fishing trips away, so we've become friends. They had a real issue in their relationship due to him cheating and lying. They've decided to stay together and are working on it together, but it made a lot lesser step to talk to her about the issues in our relationship, opposed to other girlfriends. Plus we have the opportunity since the men are basically putting us together so they can go fishing and we have the kids together...

Well my husband asked me if I told her about our problems and I truthfully told him I did. (I just don't lie)

Now he's constantly being a bitch about it when I am in contact with her. It's like never about him, I just confided in her like twice ever, and only in person. And he's telling me like I can't ever talk about our relationship or our finances or whatever anything negative with anyone because it's just very disrespectful and he's never done that to me, he's always positive about me and whatever...

But never.. with anyone... people need to vent, right? who do you confide in? do you never tell anyone?

Is it toxic or even abusive to try and control the things that I say to people? Or is he right to feel like I BIG TIME disrespected him by telling someone about our issues? (I feel like they are huge. Like I am on the verge of leaving him and I needed advice)

@Kendra

Actually I have no friends left, I only have our mutual friends. He's been blocking my friends out since the very beginning and has been isolating me.

I had a lot of male friends when we started dating and he stayed drizzling in my head that I didn't need male friends, that having male friends is disrespectful when you're in a straight relationship. While denying him female friends (Though I genuinely didn't care at all) would be intrusive, so it was a very one-way rule. And he was very negative about my 2 female friends and basically banned me from seeing them. It took me 8 years to recognize his mind games and toxic paterns (like doing something nice unexpectedly, but then requesting something very specific in return in his time. Like blaming me of cheating when I just called him out for something. Like faking health issues when he's known he's done something really bad he can't hide to gain sympathy (he faked a heart attack when he gambled all my savings away while I was out working. and I. COMFORTED. HIM. 🙄🙃) Like trying to blow up my relationships with my parents.. which to be honest about wasn't very strong to begin with,....)