How do you raise kids

I'm so disgusted with the grandparents interference I don't know how to escape them and the things they say to my kid it's frustrating I see they don't spend time with him teach him anything educational or even about manners they disrespect him

My mother she goes to this church and the pastor wife ask if child's father is black she knows he's Caucasian because his skin is tan over the summer he's turning black since then my mom tells him get out of the sun you are turning black He has no African ancestry or African American ancestry to what they are asking and

I don't see the problem with skin pigment turning darker I think those comments are out of line.

It's a small family my child loves his grandparents but I don't like how they comment things bad about me and my child learns these things listen to arguments and listen to things they say they tell him that he has no manners he's bad yet they invited him over and they don't help with that if they have specific rules in the house or things they need to communicate it to him when I'm not there