7 weeks PP & I hate affection ??

Question

I’m 7 weeks postpartum with baby #3 & this has honestly been the easiest 6 week wait for me. I have zero sex drive. I have also lost interest in anything physical really. I don’t want to be hugged, kissed, or just touched in general. 
So this has been hard for my husband. His love language is physical affection (not just sex - but hugging, holding hands, kissing, back rubs, stuff like that). 
Meanwhile I’m over here perfectly content with the idea of never ever having sex again. 
I feel awful because he’s mentioned more than once that he feels like I’m pushing him away & I’m not doing it on purpose. He said he also feels like I’m not attracted to him anymore. I’ve reassured him that I still love him & that I am still attracted to him, it’s just I’m having a hard time.. It’s like I’m in sensory overload mode 24/7. Not to mention I’ve only had the green light from my OB for a week now. 
Has anyone else felt like this? Does it go away? Is there something wrong with me?

Answer

I also got like this with my first child. I didn’t want any touching affection or something that would possibly lead to sex. Since I was breast feeding I also didn’t want him near that area. I let my husband know this and communicated to him that I still loved him and he did nothing wrong that it was me who was feeling messed up. My libido dropped and I basically felt like my body was never mine during pregnancy so I wanted to regain it back after I had the baby and just felt awkward for almost a year or so. My husband was very patient and understanding because I kept making sure he knew  that I loved him and that this feeling should pass. It took awhile but eventually did. I’m pregnant with my second and got back to being intimate with him again. You have had three babies come out of you. Your brain might be saying that you don’t want to pursue intimacy because baby’s on the brain and you just want to own your body for awhile. Between, breast feeding, and sacrificing our body, mind and needs children we also have to accommodate our partner who had needs, also wants our body and mind and that sometimes doesn’t leave room for self time and owning ourselves again as individuals. At least for me I think that’s what bothered me was not having my body back to myself and wanting that after my child and it meant very little intimacy or wanted affection. But make sure you discuss with your husband what’s going on so he doesn’t feel neglected. Communicate honest feelings and everything your going through. Ask him to be patient and try to support him as well. Don’t mention to him that you don’t want to be sexual or intimate ever again. Instead tell him it’s going to take some recovery mentally and physically since this baby has taken a toll on you. If needed you can always seek counseling to help you understand what is bothering you. Unless it’s PPD which they can probably let you know.  Hope things get better for you.

Answer

definitely an aspect of ppd! being touched out

7 weeks PP & I hate affection ??

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