Sleep struggles

Does anyone else struggle sleeping with their SO? 😩

I’ve been with my husband for over 3 years and this is the worse it has ever been. I am a very light sleeper and if my husband snores even just the slightest, it wakes me up and keeps me up for hours.

And it’s weird because he doesn’t always snore. He’ll go through phases where he snores every night for weeks and then doesn’t snore for weeks.

I used to be able to easily & kindly wake him up and ask him to roll over or push him over to lay on his side and he would do it and it would help his snoring stop.

Now I basically have to yell at him to get him to wake up and shake him aggressively (it starts nicely, but he just won’t wake up so I get really frustrated & end up yelling & shaking him after multiple failed attempts at waking him up). & him changing positions doesn’t even help anymore.

I don’t like being like that but it’s literally the only way I can get him to wake up. It gets me so worked up and I don’t want it to. (Side note - what if there was an emergency and I had to wake him up and couldn’t?! What if I needed to quietly wake him up?!) anyways, it being nighttime and me being super tired doesn’t make it any better. My attitude & patience is way worse because I’m tired & need sleep.

I wish we could honestly sleep in separate rooms but we don’t have a spare bed anywhere. I also don’t want to sleep on the couch. He could, but I can’t even get him to stay awake long enough at night to ask him to sleep on the couch. If I am able to wake him up, I can only get two words in before he’s back asleep.

We have also tried nose strips & him sleeping on extra pillows. Sometimes the extra pillows help but he always ends up not laying on his pillow. The nose strips don’t help. We do use a sound machine but it doesn’t help drown out his snores. I do go to bed before him & fall asleep first, but when he comes to bed it wakes me up.

We have talked about this during the day but there’s no solution.

Idk what to do anymore 😩😩 it honestly makes me hate sleeping with him and I dont like admitting to that. Idk if I need advice or if I’m just venting 😩