I posted earlier this week about a simple conversation that turned ugly between my husband, grandpa and my dad. To sum it up, we purchased 25 acres from my grandpa last year. This 25 acres is located literally right up the road from where my grandpa, grandma, mom and dad live. They basically live in each others yards . My mom is an angel and I love her to death. As for the rest of them, they have done so much to me and my mom/sister in the past that I never really care to see them again.

My dad was and is an addict and most of my childhood was spent in a horrible stressful environment. Always feeling the need to protect my mom, and always battling my grandparents who enabled my dad and blamed my mom for all his addiction problems. There have even been instances where my dad and grandfather have been physical with me as a child, hitting me and making me bleed at times. 

My husband simply asked my grandpa the other night to please give us a phone call if something changes our on our land. we allow him to keep his cows on this land, which joins 30 acres that my Pawpaw owns. Here lately he has been abusing his privilege and bringing stuff from his house across the road to store on our 25 acres and not even asking. He would drive through our yard numerous times throughout the day instead of using the back entrance, giving us a little to no privacy. It was just little things that were annoying that we thought could be resolved with a simple conversation. Instead, my grandpa got fuming mad and told my husband he would not be calling us and that he would use this land until he was dead. A lot of things were said and done that cannot be forgiven and it should not have escalated like that.

I am more hurt for my husband. He thought he had a decent relationship with them and he had no idea that this would be the thing that made my dad and grandpa hate him. They ganged up on him and said horrible things about him and yelled at him and disrespected him in so many ways. I refuse to allow my baby to grow up around people like that. But I am torn on what we will do on holidays now.

I love my mom and I want her to have a relationship with my daughter but she keeps begging me not to cut my dad off although I have already made the decision to do so. He still doesn’t see that he is wrong. She wants us to at least be able to get together on holidays, but she doesn’t care about my grandparents either so she’s not pushing a relationship with them, but she keeps pushing a relationship with my dad for the sake of our immediate family. I really don’t know what to do, this couldn’t have happened at a worst time. Its also hard since they live right up the road. I have to see them drive by every day And it just really makes me anxious. I cannot go over there for visits anymore. Not even to see my mom. I hate this so much for my little family but I don’t know what else to do. How can you function normally when all the ties to your family have been torn?