How to help your friend when their dad passes away?

Question

My best friend’s dad has been very sick for a longgg time now. She’s a registered nurse and took care of him and did everything for him- dialysis, bloodwork, dr appts, etc.. So much of her life has been consumed with taking care of him. He passed away tonight while she was visiting him, and she did CPR for 30 minutes before giving up. My heart is broken for her. I don’t know what to say or do. I want to help her so bad but I don’t know how to even start. I can’t imagine how traumatic that must of been for her. She’s been “expecting” it for a while, but I know nobody is actually prepared for that to happen, much less in that manner.. any advice would be appreciated . Much love to you all.

Answer

Just stay in contact with her and help her out with food and stuff coz when you lose someone so close to you, you lose the meaning of life. Do give her space though and tell her you’re always there for her when she needs you. Text her here and there and ask if you can help in any ways.

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Death and grieving comes in stages. The initial shock, having to deal with funeral arrangements you are in auto mode and numb. And it really doesn’t hit you until after the funeral and everyone is gone and people stop coming over. Getting rid of their belongings. Holidays and birthdays and when they past etc. hearing it seeing things that remind you of them. denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance are the stages of grief and sometimes you keep circling for a while until you can come to acceptance. They say time heals all wounds. It really doesn’t. You just figure it out one day at a time and do the best you can. My dad and grandfather died 3 months apart in 1983. My mom and I still feel it every year from march to the end of may. We get the blues. When they died their birth days etc. we don’t know if she is someone that needs their space or needs company. But just being there. Offering support. Getting her out of the house or having a girls night. Making sure she is taking care of herself. We tend to give and give and neglect ourselves. And depression sets in and sometimes we don’t want to do the basics of bathing, cleaning, eating etc. someone to talk to like a broken record. Listen to their stories about them and memories. Going through pictures and videos etc. just be as helpful as you can.

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Make her a comfort basket with wine, chocolates, fuzzy socks, tea, hot cocoa etc.

How to help your friend when their dad passes away?

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