Ladies I need advice. About five years ago I was at a party and got drunk. A guy I trusted and was talking to took advantage of me. I was in denial for a long time about what happened to the point that I didn’t know how bad it hurt me until I started therapy. My therapist says I blocked that incident out of my mind as a coping mechanism. Fast forward, I have now been married for 2 years. (I started therapy 1 year ago). I recently told my husband about the incident but didn’t go into detail. After the incident happened 5 years ago I went to get tested and my doctor at the time told me I didn’t have to get tested because I didn’t have symptoms. Now that I am older and less naive I know that it was wrong of her to tell me that. I’ve had Pap smears before (which my gynecologist tested for chlamydia/gonorrhea) and it was negative. I’ve been tested for HIV as well since I donate blood regularly. The only thing I have not been truly tested for is HSV. I don’t know what to do about this situation because it’s been so many years since it happened. I feel so embarrassed about it and I don’t even know if I should tell my husband. I’ve got a gynecology appointment coming up but I really do need advice on how to approach this situation. Please be kind in the comments. I was young and didn’t know any better. I regret accepting that guys offer and I wish I could turn back time. I have had a hard time coping with this shame.