My family was supposed to spend Christmas with us which was decided the first weeks of November. Early this month they said they didn’t want to leave my grandma alone. So they spent Christmas there. All last week I had asked them when & what time where they coming . Their response was idk your dad hasn’t said anything . Come Saturday she says we leave Sunday night get there Monday between 5-7 am . I let my husband know which apparently he didn’t hear me but said okay . Yesterday around 7 pm I said they’re taking off at 10 . ( It’s a 9 hour drive to us ) . He starts getting very upset cause no one told him . We have a 2 bedroom apartment. He has been staying in the other room to game drink and smoke some cigs enjoying his time off before going back to work . He didn’t want to have to give up that last night for me to clean it so they could get here . His statement was they’re not considering I have to work. ( he works at 2:30 pm- 11:30 pm ) they just want to implant themselves whatever way is convenient for them . I said they just want to drive during the night since it’s the day after Christmas to avoid traffic . He said to tell them to just come in the morning and that would work better . Mind you they already had everything packed to head this way in about 2 hours . I message my mom tell her to just head out here in the morning . She said if I have to tell your dad that he just going to want to cancel everything . He’s sleeping rn to be able to drive the whole way during the night. I communicate the message back to my husband . To which his response is it’s not what your dad wants . It’s my house I pay the bills here . They can’t just come when it’s convenient for them without thinking about me . We started getting into he basically cornered me to make them change when they were coming if not we were going to have some serious issues ( this started to become about pride and being in control .) the argument became pretty heated so I just messaged her told her we were getting into it to just not come . I didn’t want them coming during the night for whenever they got here and for him to be rude to them . He then asked why don’t they just come Thursday I’ll be off for that weekend and I’ll get to host. I told her that she said she couldn’t cause she worked Monday the whole point was to not be rushed. I left it at that . We still kept arguing back & fourth because he just couldn’t understand why it was so hard for them to just not come in the morning . My argument to him was I haven’t seen my family . I’m only asking for 2-3 days of giving up his comfort and our routine . So my daughter and I could enjoy them. I guess my dad woke up my mom told him and they took it as them not being welcomed and that my husband doesn’t want them here & my dad is very much pissed off and doesn’t want him in their house anymore . I messaged her later breaking all this down and she said they’re not coming that my dad is super pissed . My husband tells me I shouldn’t have told them to just not come but he didn’t leave me much of an option when he said I better make them change their timing it’s his house it’s not going to be what my dad wants . And I knew my dad wasn’t going to want to change his plans of coming that morning instead .