Am I crazy or is he gaslighting?
I've been really sick for the last 3 days. So has my toddler. My daughter sleeps in our bed and neither of us have gotten any sleep. I have gotten maybe like 4 hours total in the last 3 nights combined. My husband has been sleeping on the couch to stay away from germs.
My husband gets really annoyed with me when I'm sick. I don't ask him for anything or whine about it, I just can't clean the house or do what I usually do when I'm sick (I just got over covid and was out for two weeks so I've been sick most of December). This morning I finally fell asleep around 6 and he came in the room right after slamming dresser drawers and the hamper loudly because he lost his wallet (A weekly occurrence and it has nothing to do with me). He woke our daughter and she then of course wanted to get up and I was mad. I yelled "why did you make so much noise?!" and I started crying a little bit that I finally was getting sleep. Not my finest moment, truly. It's been hard not sleeping. Then he yelled at me that he lost his wallet and that's more important.
Fast forward to now, he texts me that he's on his way home and asks if I need anything. He knows I went to urgent care today and need to pick up a prescription but have been too tired to get it so far. So, since he asked me, I said "is there any chance you'd go pick up my prescription for me at the pharmacy?" His response was "c'mon dude! Wtf. FINE I'll go if I have to but know that I am VERY unhappy about it." So I told him nevermind, that I would go once he got home and he could watch our daughter.
Anyway now he's pissed at me. He said he started the day with me yelling at him and now is ending the day with me yelling at him. First off, I'm not yelling at him, he asked and I answered and then immediately took it back when he got upset. But secondly why the hell ask someone who is sick if they need anything if you are going to get mad if they say yes? He said he meant food and I said he should have said food if he was going to get so mad at me.
He's acting like I'm being a total unreasonable monster and he tends to gaslight and I'm not sure if I am because I did yell this morning before I cried. I just need some neutral opinions here. This was an unreasonable reaction on his part, right? Or am I wrong? I know I'm a mess because I'm sick and on 3 nights of no sleep and taking care of a sick toddler by myself and I'm certainly not the best version of myself this week.
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