I’m just back to complain. I swear I thought building a life with someone would mean you loved them more everyday but no resent mine more everyday. This is a stupid fight I know but I just can’t stand him anymore. The reason for the title. My son just turned 4 and he got my stubbornness. Everything I ever did to my momma I’m paying for and we’re only at year 4. My boyfriend has been getting pretty sick of it but I’m like “idk what you want me to do?”

Example: “hey son I need you pick the socks up of the floor and put them in the hamper.”

Son: “they aren’t mine.”

Me: “I know but it’s like 4 socks you can help me out a little bit”

Son: “I don’t want to.”

Me: “bro I know I don’t want to have to mop the whole house either it’s not me who spilled soda here and there and dropped a juice cup over there but like we all live here so we all gotta keep the house clean.”

Son: “I’m too tired”

Me: “if your too tired to pick up some socks then you too tired to be playing video games.”

Son starting to through a tantrum cuz he thinks I’m taking away his video games

Me: “you can have big emotions long as you need but the Xbox is staying off till those socks picked up. Do it now, do it in 5 minutes, that’s up to you but that’s longer you don’t get to play so you decide.”

Boyfriend walking over “you two are always fighting it’s so annoying here I’ll pick up the socks.”

Me: “I don’t want or need you to pick up the socks, you already did the dishes, you helped around the house now son can help around the house.”

Boyfriend: “omfg your so stubborn just let him play.”

Me: “he can play video games for hours we have no place to be today. After he gets the socks picked up though.”

Son picks up the socks and gets to go play video games. So fight time, son and I are up late playing video games together. The weather sucks where I live right now and I don’t gotta a lot of money right now and I personally am over the reading books and worksheets and board games so it’s a lotta video games at the moment. Will work on that as the weather gets better. The bed time timer goes off and I tell my son “I know the timer went off but how about we play 2 more games.” Probably another 10-15 minutes. Son of course says yes. We play two more and u remind him before the second one starts that it’s the last game. We finish the game I say “alright bed time” and of course my son goes “no one more.” Ect. And I say no. So he gets mad and says “I don’t want to sleep with you I’m sleeping on the couch” he still cosleeps. He’s already got pillow and blankets so I say alright and turn off the lights and go to my room. I wake my husband up like laughing like “how long do you think he’ll stay out there.” And my partner immediately calls our son to bed. Which my son comes. Should mention my partner is the one always bitching my son still co sleeps and saying stuff like “if he’s gonna keep having accidents than he’s not sleeping with us anymore.” And when we go into a fight about his daughter he threatened to start making my son sleep in his own room. And I’m honestly annoyed like I wanted to see how long my son could actually do it for or maybe idk actually sleep with out us for a change. Give it like 5 minutes maybe I still had a handful of things to do before bed. I was so annoyed and he’s annoyed with me for being annoyed. Anyone else find my partner annoying for this? And while I have you all here parenting tips for stubborn kids? And speaking of video games and board games and just life my kid has to win. Like full meltdown if he doesn’t win. And not just games if I’m like “can SOMEONE pass me my phone and my partner does it before my son can it’s a meltdown. So how do we teach kids being first and winning isn’t everything?