am i overreacting ?

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im currently 20 wks pregnant with our second bub long story short i had our first bub naturally at 38weeks but it was overnight- hubby had finished a long day at work concreting so he was understandabley very tired.. he mentions how tired he was and it was the most tired hes ever felt in his life (the birth of our daughter) ive let this comment slide.. today whilst sitting outside we were talking about the birth and he goes why cant you just speak to your midwife to get induced during the AM so i dont have the baby during the night again. this comment triggered me and upset me so much because its not like he has to go through any pain to bring a child into this word?? he just needs to be there to support?!? it just doesnt make sence in my brain as to why he would even suggest medical intervention just so HE wont feel tired??????? 
am i overreacting on feeling so upset or is it my hormones lol 
im so upset 😔

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Even if you’re induced you’re not guaranteed to have the baby in the morning. Tell him to educate himself

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I’m sorry, I don’t ever condone violence. But if my husband suggested/requested this from me, he’d get slapped. What an absolutely horrible thing to ask of you. “I worked, so I was tired. My comfort is clearly the priority, so next time you’re physically bringing life into the world by pushing out something the size of a watermelon, do it when it’s more convenient for me.” Get the fuck out of here with that BS. Inductions are absolutely more painful, and more-than double your risk of C-section. I had an attempted induction with my son, and lasted literally an hour before i was sobbing, demanded they stop and we went home.  I came back the next day in natural labor, and gave birth without any intervention (no pain meds, no epidural, etc.). I couldn’t have given birth without an epidural if I had gone through labor with an induction. Tell him to go read a book and suck it up. Or to go kick rocks. The latter would be my approach in this situation, personally.

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Clearly an unpopular opinion but this wouldn’t bother me. He obviously doesn’t understand how inductions work, but I don’t take it as he’s more worried about being tired than you being in pain. I don’t think men are rude for having/voicing feelings and he’s allowed to feel tired, overwhelmed, etc. when we are laboring and delivering our babies just because of what we’re going through. 
My labor with my daughter was painful, especially when my epidural stopped working and she was trying to come before my cervix was ready, but that didn’t mean my husband couldn’t express how he was feeling tired after being awake for 30 hours straight (aside from the hour and a half he got before going to our appointment) before baby was even born. 
If he was like “I don’t care about you being in pain, there’s medication for that” or not appreciating you for giving birth to his child, then I’d have an issue with it.

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I definitely agree that this is selfish of him. Being induced is supposedly more painful than spontaneous labour (no personal experience though) so would definitely bring this to his attention. Unfortunately you won't know when you'll labour and it could potentially the night again but second labours are usually quicker so might not be too much of an issue. Do explain that your comfort should be the priority and he should support your choices for labour. 
With my son, I went into labour at 3am and had him the next day by 2pm. I didn't get any sleep in that time but it was manageable 🤷🏻‍♀️ 
I'm just 25 weeks now and hubby and I also discussed the birth recently - he asked what my plans were and agreed to be more present this time as he offered practically no support first time around. 😔 He was amazing after baby was born though!

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I would just tell him it doesn’t matter what time you are induced, baby can still come at any time. I was induced around 5pm with my second baby & he didn’t come until 11:00 am.. they aren’t on a time schedule lol, they come when they come. He needs to get over it. I would be annoyed. Like do you know how exhausting it is to bring a child into this world????? I think the most tired I’ve ever been is during labor. 🙄 it’s not about him. & you’re absolutely right. All he has to do is be there to support you.

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Haha I wouldn’t be offended I would just let him know my OB wouldn’t do an induction so you can get a good nights sleep. And like the other ladies said it doesn’t gaurantee a day time baby. Babies like coming at night haha 😂 my first we were also sooo exhausted in labour the whole night and then my next 3 were super fast and I had them in the day they were inductions because I was so overdue. Your lucky your body went into labour naturally ☺️

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Induction typically takes a long time. My first induction was 39 hours and my second was going on 11 when the emergency happened that led to my c-section. If he wants to not be tired, tell him to take off of work around your due date to get some extra rest or something. It’s selfish of him to worry about how tired he’s going to be when you’re the one going through the pains and exhaustion of labor.

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I was induced for both my babies & I hate to break this to your partner , but 11.30 & 11.45pm are my babies time of birth 😂 just because you’re induced in the Am doesn’t mean they’re gonna come in the Am. 
My partner came off a night shift with my seconds inducement (we didn’t know I was being induced until the night before) the nurses set him up a lovely little mattress where he slept 😂
Honestly men be thinking they’re the main characters lmao.

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Gross. I don’t know where y’all find these little
Boys.

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I would definitely be annoyed too!

am i overreacting ?

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