Does this sound like he's projecting his guilt onto me?

Question

Last year my husband completely disregarded all and any feelings for me when he moved his mother in. What was supposed to be a brief "come for the weekend and then go to your sister as was supposedly planned" turned into us losing our home because of her. I was disrespected, by both of them (because she's highly narcissistic and manipulated him, but it doesn't make it hurt any less), I was isolated and made to be the enemy. I lost weight from stress, as well as half my hair, had to go for therapy, it was a nightmare. Unfortunately he had a trauma bond with her so no matter how much she also belittled him, he did anything to win her approval. Because I work from home I had no escape. It was only when she called me some pretty terrible things to my face one night, in front of him, that he realized I was right. The next week we were served notice to leave (we were renting from her, my husband's childhood home).
Now anytime I do something "wrong", my husband goes into these rages about my mistakes. It puts me on edge, gives me anxiety, I feel like I have to tiptoe around him constantly. I'm scared of doing anything beyond my normal routine now because of him. I'm scared of not having his work clothes done on time. I'm scared of making any solo decisions around the house. I'm scared of even using money for groceries and that. He wasn't like this until his mom came last year. 
After his last rage, he himself realised he's got this extreme anger in him and has opted to go for therapy. His first session is tomorrow. It's online so I'm going to go out to my mom or something while he's busy (he says I can stay, but we now live in a small house and I want to give him his privacy). 
Do you think he's projecting his guilt, what I had to endure at his and his mom hands last year, onto me now? During his rages he'll bring her up randomly, I don't unless I'm trying to prove a point, but he'll be shouting and then he'll just shoot a comment about his mom and then go back to raging.

Answer

I have had an abusive relationship with my dad until we went no contact a few years ago. As a child, it was very physically abusive and mentally abusive. As an adult, it turned into more mental and verbal abuse that was a lot calmer but more insidious. At times, I was a lot like your husband. My dad is also addict, but because he’s well off financially he doesn’t see the problem and will find any way to turn the situation around on you so you are the one apologizing. He’s accountable for nothing. My husband never liked him bc of my childhood but I begged him to get along bc as your husband, a child has such an innate desire to be accepted by their parent. When I realized that wasn’t going to happen and stood my ground, my dad did what his mom did and cut me out entirely/totally rejected me. I was so so so angry and hurt over it. Not only was I abused my entire life by him, I was willing to still give it my all bc I wanted a dad (like he wanted a mom). It is so hard to be in his position. He is most likely warring inside. It is so natural for parents to love their children relentlessly, so when you are a child and realize your parent genuinely does not love you as they should, it breaks something inside of you and you feel like something is wrong with you. You are also very confused bc you’ve spent all your life thinking abuse is normal and when they are out of your life you have all this energy and don’t know where to put it. I too got very angry for a while and my husband supported me but also didn’t act as a doormat which you shouldn’t either. If he does the self work, he can be free from his mental prison and your relationship will soar.

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I'm so sorry. could you move states or across country away from her

Does this sound like he's projecting his guilt onto me?

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