Should I forgive or move on?

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My fiance and I have been together a year. We have 2 kids, one from each of our previous relationships, and we're going to be getting married next year....last night I caught him on an online dating sight and I made him show me what he was doing. I read a message he sent (the only one apparently) and in the message he lied about his name but everything else was almost true, he said he was single, his age, that he was a dad, etc....I cried when I read it and he apologized over and over and then he finally broke down and cried and admitted he messed up. I told him that I forgave him but he needed to earn my trust back.....did I make the right choice? He is after all the only man I've ever been in love with and we have a blended family in the making....I really want to make this work.....I'm just confused...

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I would be VERY careful moving forward... Because if he was searching for a connection with someone other then you (which he was) then there is something that he is looking for that he is not getting out of his relationship with you.. And so you need to address that problem together and try to figure it out.

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You made the right choice like you said he has to EARN that trust back. Once he shows you that then move on with the wedding

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There is no relationship without trust. He has proven that he can't be trusted. Why would you bring your child into a family with a man you can't trust?

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Hmm that's a tough one. How can you ever forget that and trust him? I certainly wouldn't marry him until trust is 100%. I understand it's hard to walk away.

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We are all human beings, and sometimes we make the wrong choices. I think u should forgive him. And yes he needs to earn ya trust back. And that takes time. But u have to know that once u forgive him....U have to leave it in the past. Because that can and will ruin ya relationship. U will get through it huni. Just take it one day at a time

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Could you move on trusting he wouldn't ever do this again?

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Personally I would find it very hard to forgive as there must be a reason why he felt like he needed to go on a dating site. I wouldn't be able to move on and trust again, but that's just me. Good luck with whatever you choose xxx

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Idk. Speaking from experience, men are just as human as we are and we all make mistakes. If the love is there and a possibility to make it work is there then its worth a shot. But if you ever see anything like that again I'd drop him on his ass so hard if I were you.

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I think you made the right choice. Men aren't perfect and my fiancé has done some stuff that I can't believe I forgave him for, but we are much better and happy now. As long as you can trust him again and he does right by you then everything will be ok, but It will be hard to deal with. Sometimes we have to go through the worst before it gets better. :) but if he does it again move on.

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I wouldn't. I would leave. His choices to disrespect you and lie are his own. They've got nothing to do with you

Should I forgive or move on?

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