I've been with my SO for 4 years; however, I've know him for 7 years. We moved together as roomates, just for the opportunity to save money and ended up together as a couple. I never pictured myself living with my parter before marriage. So we are in our comfort zone at this point I guess. Aside this, I always knew I wanted to get married and then have kids. I am 29 years old, he's 26 years old. I finished my master degree, his mother and I are pushing him to further his studies for a career... after two years if being together I started talking about marriage and engagement. After a while was all about nagging him. At first he would not say anything, after a while he would apologize about him not talking about a future. We rarely talk about our future together, we have a vague idea of it. It frustrates me to not be in a relationship that isn't moving forward. He seemed to be ok with a simple life... I am not. After many attempts of my part, I am tired of making desicions for him about his career/studies and our future... now that I am hitting 30 years old soon, I am getting concerns with my fertility. I am under a lot of stress over this. I have tried to break it off three times, but he begs me to give him a chance, but never do anything. A few days ago I tried to confront him (it's been half a year since his last promise) and all of the sudden he came up with fears of out marriage failing, that he feels the need of the support of his family because they are far away, and scared of having babies. I took a whole day to process what he said and how all this was happening he never mentioned it. I confront him, how selfish... because he doesn't want us to break up and yet he's not doing anything because of these fears. I gave him an opportunity... again, but my heart feels too empty, even tho I care about him as this guy have made A LOT of sacrifices for me. I am forever thankful, but can't help to feel dissapointed. What would you do? Have you had a similar story, can you share?
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