Am I bitter?

Question

I don't like my dad's side of the family. They're judgmental, they lie a lot and show favoritism. My brother is still pissed at me that I didn't go to the Christmas dinner and he says I'm bitter. I don't get how I'm the bitter one if i just don't want  myself to exposed to their fakeness any longer. It's clear that they don't like me. I'm not stupid,I see that they don't. All the over nieces and nephews get new things but I get hand-me-downs that has stains(stains that will never go away) on them and that are either too big or too small. No one asks me how school's going for me, no one acknowledges me when I enter the room or sitting with them, no one even remembers my age-grade- or birthday. So I'm bitter right? They know all of my cousins birthdays, they're grade, age, what they like, etc. Shit, they barely remember my name! I'm not old enough to really stop going overall and I can't talk to my dad about not going because he gets defensive about his shitty family. I don't know what to do, I'm so fed up.

They kept telling me they love me and all that other bull. But I know they don't. If they did I'd be treated the same.

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I relate. My Dad's family is fake and judge people by their social class. My family was not rich like them so they gave us crappy gifts as well, thinking we don't realize it. Luckily I only see them every other year, but hang in there and be the bigger person and be polite. It sucks, but I am thankful for them because their action has taught me to NOT be like them and treat everyone equally. Just look at them as a life lesson.

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Make sure you express yourself not in an angry manner or even emotional in fact. Everyone deserves love and you shouldn't have to remind your family to do so but you definetly should tell them thy behave in a disrespectful manner towards you. 
If nothing changes and the same happens just be a better person and take them with a pinch of salt everytime and brush it off. People who don't show you you're worthy of love shouldn't be worthy of your emotions either.

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What about your mom and her side? Maybe you could talk to them, ask them what they think.  I think some families just suck and maybe you are better off without them.  But maybe you are coming across as angry and they have no idea how to handle you.

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Not bitter but I'd bring it up. Not live in the turmoil and grief they give you plus, a breakdown in front of them and the truth may be what they need.

Am I bitter?

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