Confused and frustrated.. seeking advice!

This will probably be long.. but advice is much needed..

My SO and I have been together for 2.5 years. About 2-3 months ago we moved officially on our own without roomies or family. We had our petty fights here and there but I thought a lot of it was due to our horrible roommates. During moving process he seemed happier than he had been in awhile.. but then shortly after moving he just seems so self absorbed:/ He hardly pitches in with bills, gas and groceries like he should. We both work full time but he usually makes about $200-300 more than me. Yet he blows all of his extra cash on the car he is building. When I approach him about how he needs to spend less on the car and pitch in more he becomes angry with me and puts it as I dont support his hobby and so on. He seems to expect me to be able to work full time, cook full time, take care of 3 dogs and buy all things for these dogs when only 1 is mine, clean full time and so on. I talk to him about pitching in around the home more because any free time he has is spent sleeping, running around with his friends ir playing with his car. He comes at me with, "well you wanna be a wife one day right? " so I tell him, "well currently im not engaged or married, have no kids and work full time noc shifts. When youre ready to take next steps ill take next steps. Until then this should be equal" and he proceeds to get pissed at me. After all the fighting, hes been bitchy and screaming and cursing at me more I have no desire to have sex from so much stress.

Now he feels the need to be angry with me because I wont put out. But he wont even at least cuddle with me or kiss me like he used to. I cant even bring myself to want to have sex because I feel so.. just depressed I suppose.

I dont know how to fix any of this anymore. He can never seem to want to work with me to fix problems it just seems to always be pinned to being my fault when I know its not. And honestly im starting to regret being stuck in a 1 year lease with him.

He isnt always an ass, he does have his good moments. But lately it feels like a lot less good moments. We havent even been on any kind of a date night in months and he is so stuck on his phone 24/7 that theres no communication unless its thru texts:(

How can I attempt to fix this or at least bring some type of sex drive back?